RELATIONSHIP TIP OF THE WEEK: Ask This Critical Question First

[Amy Warren, LMHC / WQ Mag Columnist]

When you are upset with anyone, before you open your mouth to speak about it, ask yourself “Is what am I about to say or do likely to make things better or worse?” No matter how right you think you are, no matter how good of a point you have to make, if what you are going to say or do is going to make things worse, don’t do it. It’s not worth the fall-out.

There is always a different way to say things or a different approach to problems. Take the time to consider how to say things in a way that will help you get the outcome you want. While it can be very tempting to lash out or retaliate, the only thing you will do is create more distance. If your objective is to be closer (and if it isn’t, it’s time to leave the relationship), then take the time to ask yourself and make sure that what you are about to do is likely to bring you closer rather than farther apart.