Superwomen Say No....

[nicholl stoothoff]

For a long,long, very long time now I have been striving for this unrealistic, do it all, and don't smudge your make up while doing it all superwoman persona. It seems like in todays world women are supposed to diet, exercise, keep up on hair, nails, and tan. Keep the house clean, make everything home made, discipline the children perfectly, keep your husband pleased in the bedroom all with a smile on our face.

But if you focus too much on the hair and nails than your superficial, or too little than your plain jane. And I have basically been making myself crazy trying to do it all. Doing everything for everyone else to make them happy. Well, recently I asked myself am I happy. For the most part, no I am not a manic depressive, but there were a lot of unrealistic, uneccessary things I was doing and all to fit this wonder woman persona. So I said enough is enough. It is much harder than I thought to re-focus and re-program myself but I am starting.

In the end I am going to do what is best for myself and my family even if it means saying" no " to someone. I have found that it was actually more satisfying and fulfilling to know that in my my heart I was making a decision on my best interests and not what someone might think of me.....FREEDOM!!!!! Talk about deep breaths and exhaling.

So, my challenge and encouragement to all the beautiful, mothers and women out there is to just say no, and do what makes you truly happy. Not to worry about what others may think but only what you and those who really love you think. Be free and the true, real inner super woman will come forth.

Nicholl Stoothoff