You’d think it’d be reassuring, the possibility that you’re the only one who realizes you’re filling out or going bald. Actually, it’s maddening. As much as we might wish it weren’t true, we’re desperate for someone among those we trust to love us unconditionally to confirm what we know and to validate what we feel.
Now, imagine the same above scenario except that you’re also battling a life-threatening disease or you suffer with a chronic condition that compromises your independence and ability to move about freely. You’re losing your hair, gaining weight, watching your skin deteriorate or your veins bulge under your skin. Maybe you’re in a wheelchair so that everyone gets to look down on that bald spot on top of your head, and STILL they claim not to see it. Or worse, they act as if in the larger context, your appearance issues are insignificant and simply don’t matter. They’re wrong.
I’ve been there. I know. I believe you. And I want you to know, you’re not misguided for caring or for wanting to be and look the best you can, regardless of whatever else you are facing.
Susan Beausang, 4Women.com
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