Save The Time...

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Save Your Relationship

In today’s busy world, quality relationship time often gets put on the back burner. You might ask “Between work, being super mom, running a household, doing community work, and trying to get some exercise, how do I find the time for my man?” The answer is simple. You don’t find the time; you make the time. And if you don’t, your relationship will suffer. In fact, if you are asking yourself this question, your relationship is probably already suffering the consequences. Too often, couples get uncomfortably comfortable in the routine of chaotic schedules, and they forget the need to nurture their relationship. Like a plant that isn’t watered, your relationship will wither if it isn’t fed.

Your relationship should be your first priority. It may sound unromantic to schedule time with your man, but today’s schedules often make it necessary. Have date nights at least once a week. Take a day off together once in a while, even if you never leave the house. Evaluate how you are spending your time and look at ways to cut back on things other than your relationship. To ease your load, ask your man to help with some of the responsibilities, and let him know the incentive is that you’ll have more time and energy for him. “But I need some time alone for me,” you might be saying. Well, if you don’t carve out some time for your man, you might just be spending all your time alone. Besides you might even be able to skip that work-out with all the calories you’ll be burning as the sparks reignite between you.

Too often, couples attend events jointly and then separate for the majority of the evening. “We see each other everyday,” they say. Social gatherings give couples a chance to bond by experiencing it jointly. You don’t have to stay joined at the hip, but do make sure you share the experience. Don’t reserve your man for the mundane routines in life, make him a part of your life.

When women have children, couple time is often neglected. But remember, your children will grow up and leave to live their own lives—leaving you at home with a shriveled up marriage if you don’t make the time for it now. Can’t afford a babysitter? Even if you can, schedule dates after the children go to bed. Get creative and plan something fun or romantic…a candlelight dinner in bed, a bubble bath for two. Another option is to arrange with a friend to take turns babysitting for each other’s children, giving both of you time for relationship boosts.

Don’t just build your dates around sex. True intimacy encompasses much more than sex. To learn about the other facets of relationship intimacy which are crucial to a satisfying and healthy relationship, visit the Lovebirds clique at www.wqmag.com and read “The Ingredients of Intimacy.”

Stop making excuses now for why you don’t have time for quality moments with your man. The longer you wait, the further apart you will grow. Without creating a space for intimacy, you won’t have intimacy. Save the time and save your relationship.

by Amy Warren, LMHC

[Diana Daffner]

You are SO right about all of this. And having "couple time" separate from "family time" benefits the children as well. What could be better than having parents who are happy and in love with each other. It's such a gift for them!

Diana Daffner
Author, Tantric Sex for Busy Couples: How to Deepen Your Passion in Just Ten Minutes a Day